this is what the thing i wanted to talk about.
why love hurts and people keep on asking why can't a good girl gets the right guy for her and why can't a good guy gets the right girl for himself? why is that fate been written at first place??? well, to me it's just a matter of expectation. how we expect them to be and how much they are expecting from us.
no matter who we fall for, just don't ever expect to much from each other. It is just the matter of understanding each other. we might expect our partner to do this and that but actually they have no idea what is going on in our mind. they have no idea what we are actually thinking and expecting. like normally, one side will expect that the relationship is until the end..marrying each other and live happily ever after. did they ever asked the other side how they actually feel? oh maybe they have discussed the matter but actually the other side were just saying okay just to please their partner. maybe they just want a relationship. that's all. they're not looking or searching for a soulmate yet. well, people agree sometimes just to please and not wanting to hurt the other. and this really happens. that is why love hurts.
so, in relationship there's actually no right or wrong. if both agrees and knows and understands by heart (bukan paksarela) what each other wants it'll actually turns up better and worth for both. i think that is the reason orang tua-tua always reminds us when involving in relationship, both must try to understands each other. it's not easy though. give and take is important. those are the roses yang menceriakan taman...to make it lively..happy.. love is also when dua hati jadi satu. it's a process of learning. learn. learn. learn to know each other forever.
this particular issue is actually a reminder to me. not again anytime to get this thing involve in my life too soon. i always have to hold it back and stop it from coming near me. learn about the other side first. get to know them first. normally at this age of mine, people are actually looking for a friendship. more than a friend. we need and wants attention, to be loved, to be taken care of, and it's just a feeling. people my age just can't afford to get married yet. we have to be established first. it's too soon to think about marriage now. so, get that as a point. it's not that love hurts. it's just tak faham antara satu sama lain. that's why happened all those curang or cari bf/gf lain.
actually, the sooner we thinks about it, the further it goes. it means lagi awal, lagi jauh kite perlu berlari untuk mengejar cita-cita yang tak pasti. the journey is simply too far away. if it comes later, i mean if we thinks about it later, when we are stable and established, then when we start thinking about the serious matter of relationship it will come a sense. than that will be the time. tak perlu nak lari jauh-jauh. dah ada depan mata. tak payah tunggu lama-lama.
so people, correct me if i'm wrong. :)
why love hurts and people keep on asking why can't a good girl gets the right guy for her and why can't a good guy gets the right girl for himself? why is that fate been written at first place??? well, to me it's just a matter of expectation. how we expect them to be and how much they are expecting from us.
no matter who we fall for, just don't ever expect to much from each other. It is just the matter of understanding each other. we might expect our partner to do this and that but actually they have no idea what is going on in our mind. they have no idea what we are actually thinking and expecting. like normally, one side will expect that the relationship is until the end..marrying each other and live happily ever after. did they ever asked the other side how they actually feel? oh maybe they have discussed the matter but actually the other side were just saying okay just to please their partner. maybe they just want a relationship. that's all. they're not looking or searching for a soulmate yet. well, people agree sometimes just to please and not wanting to hurt the other. and this really happens. that is why love hurts.
so, in relationship there's actually no right or wrong. if both agrees and knows and understands by heart (bukan paksarela) what each other wants it'll actually turns up better and worth for both. i think that is the reason orang tua-tua always reminds us when involving in relationship, both must try to understands each other. it's not easy though. give and take is important. those are the roses yang menceriakan taman...to make it lively..happy.. love is also when dua hati jadi satu. it's a process of learning. learn. learn. learn to know each other forever.
this particular issue is actually a reminder to me. not again anytime to get this thing involve in my life too soon. i always have to hold it back and stop it from coming near me. learn about the other side first. get to know them first. normally at this age of mine, people are actually looking for a friendship. more than a friend. we need and wants attention, to be loved, to be taken care of, and it's just a feeling. people my age just can't afford to get married yet. we have to be established first. it's too soon to think about marriage now. so, get that as a point. it's not that love hurts. it's just tak faham antara satu sama lain. that's why happened all those curang or cari bf/gf lain.
actually, the sooner we thinks about it, the further it goes. it means lagi awal, lagi jauh kite perlu berlari untuk mengejar cita-cita yang tak pasti. the journey is simply too far away. if it comes later, i mean if we thinks about it later, when we are stable and established, then when we start thinking about the serious matter of relationship it will come a sense. than that will be the time. tak perlu nak lari jauh-jauh. dah ada depan mata. tak payah tunggu lama-lama.
so people, correct me if i'm wrong. :)
2 comments:
true, understanding ur partner are one of d most important things to do in order to create a successful relationship. ( wahh.. hany dh pandai berkata2.. effect drama2 kt tv ke nehh ?? hihi)
hahaha~dah banyak belajar laa mira sayang.. :) not only tv.but tv plays the most important part :)
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